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Fundamental Twelve: Eliminate Negative Feelings & Problems

Answers the question – What are the top 14 traits of happy people?

Fundamental Twelve is known as “the depressing fundamental,” because it deals with the troubled, unhappy side of our lives.

By in large, the Fundamentals we’ve presented so far have been pretty “up-beat.” And why not? These Volumes are about happiness — the most “up-beat” topic there is. Naturally, therefore, most of our discussions have focused on the more pleasant themes and aspects of life. Indeed, the essence of these Volumes has been an attempt to examine the ultimate state of human existence (happiness) by learning what the very happiest people can teach us. The Fourteen Fundamentals, which has been derived from the study of these happy people, provides a guideline for the average individual wishing to climb that mythical “happiness ladder” all the way to the top.

This makes these Volumes quite different from the bulk of technical and “popular” literature in the field. Most books in psychology deal with problem areas in life: depressions, anxieties, dysfunctional families, parenting difficulties, marital conflicts, etc.. And though the majority of those books provide much insight into such personal difficulties, as well as a lot of guidance toward overcoming or working-through them, the best results just teach a person how to be “problem free” — but not necessarily happy.

Perhaps the main distinction that The Fourteen Fundamentals Program enjoys is that it takes over where the rest of the more problem-solving approaches leave off.

Certainly, eliminating marital conflict eliminates a lot of unhappiness from one’s life. No doubt, working-through the remnant scars of an abusive childhood frees one’s mind of long-carried, emotional baggage. Clearly, ridding oneself of a deep-seated fear or insecurity can go a long way in making day-to-day living a lot easier. But is that all there is to it? Isn’t there something more?

In the early days of psychology, the answer was: “no.” In those early days, is was just assumed that the Good Life was simply the absence of pain and unhappiness. If one could just conquer their personal problems and difficulties, they’d be happy. Indeed, in many quarters, “happiness” is still defined as merely being the absence of unhappiness. Yet it is clear from the accumulated research we have presented, that true happiness is more — in fact, much, much more — than just the absence of unhappiness from one’s life.

Most of us still hold to the the idea that happiness flows when all personal problems are cured. But in fact, when all personal problems are cured we’re really just in a neutral happiness-state. In essence, we’re only half way up the ladder. Indeed, we’ve only begun our climb…

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