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Fundamental Five: Stop Worrying

Created By: MICHAEL W. FORDYCE, Ph.D
Answers the question – What are the top 14 traits of happy people?

Highlights
If one dwells on negative thoughts or images, the negative emotions associated with them will dampen one’s mood. If one ponders more pleasant ideas, one’s mood can be elevated

Maxwell Maltz defines happiness “as a state of mind where one’s thinking is pleasant most of the time”

Planning is a positive attempt to gain control over life’s circumstances; worry is a futile tendency to fret over life’s circumstances.

Happy people tend to:

  • Worry a lot Less!!!
  • Spend more time in a happy mood.
  • Be able to accomplish more with their time since they are not waisting it worrying.
  • Advice:

Keep a “worry journal” – Ideally, it’s best to write down each worry as it occurs.  Once you’ve completely cataloged your worries for two weeks, put them aside for awhile — say for a few weeks to a month.

Now that they’ve had time to stew, it’s time to dig them out and analyze them. Ask yourself: “how many of the things you worried about actually came true?”

Realize – WORRY DOES NO GOOD.
Apparently, worry is worthless. We spend countless hours of our precious time worrying about things that never come true.

Try “Though switching” – it is one of the most widely used techniques of behavioral and cognitive therapies. Simply stopping a worried thought is not good enough. To keep it away, it needs to be replaced with something more positive

Worry, worry, worry! It’s a way of life for most of us these days…

Everybody worries to some extent, yet very few of us are aware of how much we worry, or, even worse, how much our worry effects our happiness. Yet the effect can be devastating. Worry can sap personal happiness greatly, indeed, it may be the single, most common happiness-robber there is. That is why I have always referred to worry as “the Arch-Enemy of Happiness” (228, 229, 289).

Worry is probably the single most dysfunctional thing that average person does to ruin their potential happiness. Its effect is insidious, pervasive, and, sadly, generally goes unnoticed by the worrier as it does its dirty work — to erode their daily mood…

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Michael W. Fordyce

"Happiness is Nature's main reward in life!" - Michael W Fordyce gethappy.com ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Updated by admin (from wiki): Michael W. Fordyce (December 14, 1944 – January 24, 2011) was a psychologist and pioneer researcher in the field of empirical happiness measurement and intervention. As a forerunner who approached "happiness" as an applied science, he ushered-in the modern academic branch of Positive Psychology. Fordyce contributed a happiness-measurement article to the journal Social Indicators Research, which ranked in the journal's top 2.4% most-cited articles. He demonstrated that happiness can be statistically measured and willfully increased (i.e. through "volitional" behavior). Fordyce worked at Edison Community College (Fort Myers, Florida) where he taught a data-driven "happiness training program" for over three decades.

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